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<div class="moz-cite-prefix">On 18/Feb/19 08:58, Viruthagiri
Thirumavalavan wrote:<br>
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<div>It sucks when you sit on the "humiliation" chair when the
mistake is not yours. I'm a farmer's son from a third world
country, yet trying to contribute to this world in the way I
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<div>Asking for feedback is not a mistake. But I have been
attacked in multiple lists for that. This is the only thread
I was rude and cocky. </div>
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<font face="Tahoma">My simple advice, take 2 weeks and think about
how this thread has gone, cool down, and then decide how you want
to proceed next.<br>
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While nobody can take your work away from you, it does not mean
that they have to accept it either. Your circumstances are your
circumstances, as are everybody else's. Most people can smell a
guilt trip, and often times, they don't like it.<br>
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As I used to tell my friends who had trouble dating girls, "You
don't get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate". Part of
the gig is endearing yourself to people so that they can consider
what you have to say. I do not know of any law that obliges anyone
to give you attention.<br>
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There is no shortage of brilliant minds that have never had their
ideas realized - or even heard - simply because they could not
deal with the social side of the gig. Please don't fall into that
trap. Everybody wakes up everyday with their own set of problems.
They have no obligation to be a part of yours, so make it easier
for folk to listen to you. Whether you are right or wrong,
bickering about the past deafens your core message, and simply
turns people away so they don't have to add your problems on to
theirs.<br>
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Mark.<br>
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